We have gathered here today to mourn the society that believes fat bodies are unlovable, unhealthy and unrealistic. We have gathered to mourn the loss of fat shamers and internet trolls who have made our bodies feel unwelcome here. It’s unfortunate that we live in a society that believes being a big is a death sentence. The world ridicules and mocks the bodies of fat boys and girls daily. We are not valued or seen as humans because we have a few extra pounds. Today we mourn the mindset of individuals who believe that being fat is a “condition”. The question of, “How can you possibly be happy being as big as you are?” Is one of the many and constant questions received. Am I not human? Am I not deserving of the love and respect because my body is big? We ask ourselves what we did to make people hate our fat bodies. The answer is simply nothing.
Today we mourn the mindset of individuals who believe that being fat is a “condition”.
“Fat is a death sentence.”, is what I started to gather from the many men and women all over the world as they began journeys to a new weight. I started to notice how people fat shamed themselves and made it seem that their weight and their bodies were the cause of their self-esteem issues. When in reality, if we lived in a society that welcomed us, we would in turn love ourselves.
People are always asking me, “How can you be fat, yet be so happy?” I always respond I didn’t know that being fat meant that I had to be unhappy with life. It was as if I had to stop enjoying the wonders of the world and the simple things in life because I was fat. People can never understand that being fat is not a death sentence. Just because you have more body mass index does not make you unhealthy. Fat does not = Unhealthy. My doctor told me that while you’re overweight I see that your heart is in great condition, you are not pre-diabetic, you do not suffer from any health issues, it just that you’re fat. It took some time to realize that my doctor was in fact fat shaming me. She could not point out any health related issues but because the BMI suggested that at the age 26 and a height of 5’0” I should be weighing 150 pounds. Never mind that my vitals were great with the exception of low blood pressure, which I had always suffered from even at my smallest of 120 pounds soaking wet. She insisted that I was fat and because of this condition I needed to be sure I was doing everything to make the fat go away. She had asked how you are happy. Do you not want a smaller stomach, and abs and muscles? NO LADY, I am happy being a fat girl. It is people like you who embed these nasty truths in our heads forgetting that words stick forever.
There are so many people walking around saddened by the fact that they are fat and that they don’t have these beautiful sculpted gym bodies. They carry this self-hate, believing that because they are fat they do not deserve to be happy.
You have the masses of people that do not realize that fat is not a death sentence and that the thought process behind it all is the actual death sentence. If you do not change your way of thinking, then your mind is captivated and that can be the death sentence you live in. While everyone may not be happy because maybe their fat was too much to live life, there are many of us who love our fat bodies and appreciate the extra that it comes with. FAT is not a death sentence because it is something that comes and goes. Fat does not mean you’re unhealthy, and fat doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy life.
No we are not pretending to be something that we are not. “Our Fat is not our death; there is life to be lived. If you chose to lose the weight, do it and become healthy and happy forYOU. In the process don’t make others feel it’s a requirement to be unhappy while being fat. They will live amazing lives because their weight will not stop them; and it shouldn’t stop you.
AND I HOPE
THAT IT ISN'T YOURS !
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